How much is shallow breathing costing your overall well-being?

Introduction

“How much is shallow breathing costing your overall well-being,” is the third class in a five-part series on the Breath hosted by Abdi Assadi and Pernilla Burke.

I used to think of breath as just breath. Something the body did on its own, a background rhythm like the hum of a refrigerator, always there and barely noticed. It was not until I found myself under prolonged stress, caught in cycles of fatigue and overwhelm, that I realized my breath was no longer supporting me. It was working against me. I was breathing, but only just. Shallow. Rushed. Constricted. Instead of nourishing me, my breath was keeping me locked in survival mode.

Breathing is the bridge between the unconscious and the conscious, the seen and the unseen, the mind and the body. Yet many of us live in a constant state of restricted breathing, unaware of the toll it takes on our nervous system and overall wellbeing. In this podcast episode, we explored the effects of shallow breathing, the restorative potential of breathwork, and how mindful breathing can be woven into daily life to support clarity, balance, and healing.

The Impact of Shallow Breathing on Mind and Body

For years, I did not think about how I was breathing, only that I was. When I finally began paying attention, I noticed the tightness in my chest, the constant clenching in my shoulders, and the feeling that I was always on the edge of a deep exhale that never fully arrived.

Shallow breathing keeps us caught in a low level fight or flight response. The nervous system never truly settles, stress hormones remain elevated, and the body behaves as if danger is always nearby. When we breathe only into the upper chest, we send signals to the brain that we are unsafe. Over time, this can contribute to anxiety, fatigue, mental fog, and physical symptoms such as digestive issues or chronic tension. This realization landed deeply for me. How many years had I lived in a body that did not feel safe? How many of us move through life unknowingly restricting ourselves, not because there is not enough air, but because there is not enough awareness?

The truth is, the way we breathe reflects the way we live. Shallow and restricted breathing mirrors a life shaped by tension, disconnection, and unacknowledged stress. Deep and conscious breathing invites presence, grounding, and a felt sense of safety. This is not just about breath. It is about how we inhabit our lives.

Breathing Techniques for Emotional and Physical Well-being

There are many different breathing techniques, but their beauty lies in their simplicity. One of the most transformative practices for me has been diaphragmatic breathing, breathing deeply into the belly rather than the chest and allowing the breath to move naturally and fully. This activates the parasympathetic nervous system and sends a clear message to the body that it is safe and can let go. Another practice I often return to is box breathing. Inhaling for four counts, holding for four, exhaling for four, and holding again for four creates a rhythmic reset for the nervous system and offers a pause for an overstimulated mind. There is also the 4 7 8 breath, inhaling for four, holding for seven, and exhaling for eight. This has been one of the most reliable ways I have found to calm anxiety. When my mind is racing, my body feels restless, or sleep feels out of reach, this breath becomes a refuge. Breathwork is not about forcing stillness. It is about inviting it. It is about recognizing that within every inhale and every exhale, there is an opening for change and renewal.

Practical Ways to Integrate Mindful Breathing into Daily Life

Breathwork doesn’t have to be something we set aside time for; it can be something we weave into the fabric of our days. It can be as simple as taking a deep, conscious breath before answering an email. Pausing to inhale deeply before stepping into a stressful situation. Using the breath as an anchor when the mind starts spinning into stories of fear or worry. One of the most powerful shifts I’ve made is turning everyday moments into breathing rituals:

  • Morning breathwork: Before reaching for my phone, I take five slow, deep breaths.
  • Breathing before meals: A simple three-breath pause before eating helps shift the body into a state of rest and digestion.
  • Breathing in nature: Walking outside, breathing in through the nose, exhaling longer than the inhale. A way to reconnect with the world around me.
  • Breathing before bed: A few rounds of 4-7-8 breath to invite deep rest.

When we make breath a part of our daily rhythm, we stop living in a state of constant depletion. We reclaim our energy. We return to ourselves.

Conclusion

If there’s one thing I’ve learned on this journey, it’s that the breath is the most powerful tool we have because it’s always with us. We don’t need anything external to access it. We don’t need to wait for the right moment. The breath is here, now. It’s the bridge between our thoughts and our body, between our stress and our peace, between survival and thriving. The question isn’t Are you breathing? The question is How are you breathing? Because how we breathe is how we live.And I don’t know about you, but I want to breathe deeply. I want to live fully.

And it all starts with a single, conscious breath.

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Abdi Assadi is unlike any other healer or spiritual teacher ever encountered. He is an expert in martial arts, and a dynamic healer practicing a diverse array of Chinese and Eastern Medicine, indigenous shamanic rituals, and meditation techniques. With a clinical practice in New York City for almost 4 decades, Abdi has accumulated a vast knowledge of real life experience working with several thousands of individuals, guiding them through the most difficult times, and teaching them how to understand themselves. One of the greatest things about him is he merges the human psyche with the spiritual psyche.

Steeped in deep wisdom and insight that is rare to find on this planet in these modern times, Abdi has an extraordinary ability in perceiving and comprehending human souls and their individual psyche. Guided by the divine, Abdi guides you to open up and see beyond your limited Self, into your own soul. His impeccable discernment enables him to unleash personal remarks that pierce through your veil, statements that you will never forget and in an instant alter your perception of yourself and your reality.

– Quotes from Shadows on the Path by Abdi Assadi:


All spiritual masters teach us that love is an activity before it is a condition – and that love is all-encompassing.
Page 18


It felt like I was coming off a race track and driving in a school zone. He knew, years before I did, that my speed was my way of suppressing my early childhood anxiety, and that only slowing down could heal it.

Why do you need to use all these words like God and spirituality? It is right here Abdi, all around you, all the time
Page 40


one does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.
Page 51


Ultimately it keeps grace out of our lives because we are using our will power to manipulate every event and person around us.
Page 74


His lesson, which I had begun to learn for myself, is that outside circumstances do not define our internal experience if we can surrender into them. Painful or undesirable situations will always arise; true suffering comes from our ego’s desire to resist life as it is.
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Note from Pernilla:
I met Abdi in the fall of 2014 and when I arrived in his office the first thing he said was, “It’s time that you stop carrying other people’s anxiety.” In the year that followed, my entrenched codependency patterns reared their ugly heads and I was confronted with a part of myself that I had never even known was there.

A few years later, Abdi said, “When are you going to start writing your book?”I looked at him in surprise. I was not a writer. My expertise was centered around creating crazy good Excel spreadsheets. However, I started writing and collecting notes about life issues and life experiences … and here we are a few years later.

Sally Kempton is a preeminent meditation teacher of our time.

She is an expert scholar in Hinduism and all Hindu texts especially in Kashmir Shaivisim. Formerly Swami Durgananda, she left monastic life in the 1980’s to teach publicly. She has written several books and is one of the most known and loved spiritual teachers in our time.

Note from Pernilla:

I met Sally at one of her workshops at City Yoga in LA in 2003. She had the most gentle and loving disposition, and I just wanted to always be around her. I was fortunate to have been part of her two year-long “Transformative journey” courses in 2006 and 2007 and many retreats ever since. She is the true representation of unconditional love and transmits intense shakti from her Guru Swami Muktananda.

Sally is the primary building block and foundation in my spiritual journey. Without her, I would have never found and stuck with meditation – the most transformative experience of my life. Without her, I would have been lost without a clue where to go next. Her wealth of knowledge of yogic philosophy and incredible understanding of the human condition is what makes her a force to be reckoned with.  She understands your depth and makes you feel seen, heard, validated, and deeply loved.