Mastering the Breath

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Introduction

“Mastering the Breath,” is the fifth class in a five-part series on the Breath hosted by Abdi Assadi and Pernilla Burke.

I used to believe that transformation came through grand, earth shattering moments, those rare flashes of clarity when everything suddenly made sense. Over the years, I have come to see that real transformation happens in quieter ways. It lives in the spaces between thoughts, in the pauses, and in the stillness of the breath. The way we breathe is the way we live. When the breath is shallow and rushed, that same quality often shapes our days. When the breath is deep and intentional, we begin to anchor into presence. Breath is life. It is the first thing we do when we enter this world and the last thing we do when we leave it. And yet, in between, how often do we truly pay attention? We carry so much within us, grief, stress, tension, without realizing that the key to release and genuine healing is already there, in the exhale.

In this conversation, we explore the power of breath with a master of the craft. We reflect on the ancient wisdom behind breathing techniques, the often overlooked intelligence of exhalation, and how integrating breathwork into daily life can become one of the simplest and most profound shifts toward presence, peace, and connection.

Essential Breathing Techniques: Unlocking the Body’s Innate Intelligence

For years, I misunderstood breathwork. I thought it was simply something we did in yoga class, a way to control the body or relax the nervous system. But breath is so much more than that. It is a direct line to the subconscious. It holds the power to soften the tightness in our chest, release trauma held deep within the body, and guide us back home to ourselves. There are many techniques, but often the simplest ones carry the greatest power.

  • Diaphragmatic breathing: Most of us breathe shallowly, high in the chest, triggering stress responses. Breathing deep into the belly tells the body, “You’re safe. You can let go.”
  • Box breathing: Inhale, hold, exhale, hold. A practice of rhythm, of balance, of teaching the nervous system that steadiness is always available, even in the storm.
  • Alternate nostril breathing: The practice of harmonizing the left and right sides of the brain, bringing clarity, focus, and a deep sense of calm.

Each breath pattern holds a key. A key to stillness, to energy, to release. It’s not about forcing anything: it’s about remembering how to breathe in a way that honors the body, rather than fighting against it.

The Power of Exhalation: Letting Go in Every Breath

The inhale is what we crave. We pull life into our lungs, gripping it as if we are afraid it might disappear. But the exhale is where the real shift happens. For a long time, I barely noticed my exhales. I thought they were simply what followed the inhale. Over time, I learned that how we exhale, how fully we let go, changes everything. When we hold onto the breath, we also hold onto tension, fear, and control. A constricted exhale reflects a life of gripping and resisting the natural flow of things. A full and spacious exhale reflects surrender. And surrender is freedom.

One of the most powerful shifts I made was learning to lengthen my exhales. Instead of clinging to life, I allowed myself to soften into it. I let the exhale become a signal to my body that it was safe to release. Breath is a mirror of life itself. We can inhale endlessly, taking in knowledge, experiences, and love, but if we do not learn to exhale and release, we remain weighed down by what has already passed. Exhale fully. Let go. Trust that there is always another breath waiting for you.

Integrating Breathwork into Daily Life: Making Presence a Habit

The beauty of breathwork is that it doesn’t require a retreat, a teacher, or a special moment. It’s something we can weave into the smallest pockets of our day.

  • Morning reset: Before opening my phone, before stepping into the chaos of the world, I take five deep, slow breaths. It sets the tone for my entire day.
  • Mindful moments: Every time I find myself rushing, I pause. One deep breath. Just one. And in that moment, I come back.
  • Before sleep: A longer exhale than inhale. A reminder to the body that it’s safe, that rest is welcome.

Breath is always there, waiting. It asks nothing of us except to notice it. And when we do, when we give it our attention, it transforms everything.

This practice is not about perfection. It’s about presence. About returning to ourselves, again and again, through something as simple, as profound, as a single breath.

Conclusion

So much of life is spent chasing meaning, peace, or the next thing we believe will finally make us feel whole. But maybe what we have been looking for has been here all along. Maybe it is not something we need to find, but something we need to remember. Breath is the bridge. It connects the body to the mind, the mind to the soul, and the soul to the present moment. It is our teacher, our healer, and our constant companion.

I hope this conversation serves as an invitation. An invitation to breathe with more awareness, to exhale with more trust, and to bring this sacred practice into every corner of your life. Because in the end, transformation is not something outside of us. It is right here. In this breath. And the next one. And the one that follows.

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Abdi Assadi is unlike any other healer or spiritual teacher ever encountered. He is an expert in martial arts, and a dynamic healer practicing a diverse array of Chinese and Eastern Medicine, indigenous shamanic rituals, and meditation techniques. With a clinical practice in New York City for almost 4 decades, Abdi has accumulated a vast knowledge of real life experience working with several thousands of individuals, guiding them through the most difficult times, and teaching them how to understand themselves. One of the greatest things about him is he merges the human psyche with the spiritual psyche.

Steeped in deep wisdom and insight that is rare to find on this planet in these modern times, Abdi has an extraordinary ability in perceiving and comprehending human souls and their individual psyche. Guided by the divine, Abdi guides you to open up and see beyond your limited Self, into your own soul. His impeccable discernment enables him to unleash personal remarks that pierce through your veil, statements that you will never forget and in an instant alter your perception of yourself and your reality.

– Quotes from Shadows on the Path by Abdi Assadi:


All spiritual masters teach us that love is an activity before it is a condition – and that love is all-encompassing.
Page 18


It felt like I was coming off a race track and driving in a school zone. He knew, years before I did, that my speed was my way of suppressing my early childhood anxiety, and that only slowing down could heal it.

Why do you need to use all these words like God and spirituality? It is right here Abdi, all around you, all the time
Page 40


one does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.
Page 51


Ultimately it keeps grace out of our lives because we are using our will power to manipulate every event and person around us.
Page 74


His lesson, which I had begun to learn for myself, is that outside circumstances do not define our internal experience if we can surrender into them. Painful or undesirable situations will always arise; true suffering comes from our ego’s desire to resist life as it is.
Page 77


Note from Pernilla:
I met Abdi in the fall of 2014 and when I arrived in his office the first thing he said was, “It’s time that you stop carrying other people’s anxiety.” In the year that followed, my entrenched codependency patterns reared their ugly heads and I was confronted with a part of myself that I had never even known was there.

A few years later, Abdi said, “When are you going to start writing your book?”I looked at him in surprise. I was not a writer. My expertise was centered around creating crazy good Excel spreadsheets. However, I started writing and collecting notes about life issues and life experiences … and here we are a few years later.

Sally Kempton is a preeminent meditation teacher of our time.

She is an expert scholar in Hinduism and all Hindu texts especially in Kashmir Shaivisim. Formerly Swami Durgananda, she left monastic life in the 1980’s to teach publicly. She has written several books and is one of the most known and loved spiritual teachers in our time.

Note from Pernilla:

I met Sally at one of her workshops at City Yoga in LA in 2003. She had the most gentle and loving disposition, and I just wanted to always be around her. I was fortunate to have been part of her two year-long “Transformative journey” courses in 2006 and 2007 and many retreats ever since. She is the true representation of unconditional love and transmits intense shakti from her Guru Swami Muktananda.

Sally is the primary building block and foundation in my spiritual journey. Without her, I would have never found and stuck with meditation – the most transformative experience of my life. Without her, I would have been lost without a clue where to go next. Her wealth of knowledge of yogic philosophy and incredible understanding of the human condition is what makes her a force to be reckoned with.  She understands your depth and makes you feel seen, heard, validated, and deeply loved.