My friend meditation
My friend Meditation
Podcast Summary
There was a time when I couldn’t sit still. A time when silence felt uncomfortable, even threatening. My mind was loud—too loud. I didn’t know how to exist without distraction. If you had told me back then that meditation would one day be my greatest source of comfort, I would have laughed. And yet, here I am. Meditation is not just a practice. It’s a relationship. A friendship. A coming home to myself over and over again. It’s not about controlling the mind but about changing the way we meet it. It’s about creating space—space to breathe, space to feel, space to just be.
In this podcast episode, we explored how meditation has shaped our lives, not as a rigid practice but as a friend—one that is always there, always accessible, always ready to welcome us back. We shared our personal journeys, the challenges of maintaining a practice, and the forms of meditation that have helped us the most. This blog is a deeper reflection of that conversation. It’s for anyone who has ever struggled to meditate, for those who feel like they’re “doing it wrong,” and for those who want to find their own way into stillness.
Because meditation is not about perfection. It’s about presence. And presence is always available.
Meditation as a Personal Journey and Friend
For most of my life, I searched for something—something beyond the noise of my own mind. I didn’t know it at the time, but what I was searching for was already within me. Meditation became the friend I never knew I needed. At first, it felt impossible. My thoughts were relentless, an unbroken stream of distractions, doubts, and worries. I wanted to do it “right,” but no matter how hard I tried, my brain wouldn’t stop. It felt like failure. But the beauty of meditation is that it doesn’t ask for perfection. It simply asks for presence.
We talked about how meditation isn’t something we grew up with. We weren’t raised in an ashram. We didn’t travel to India to find stillness. In fact, we spent our early years in nightclubs, dancing until sunrise, chasing something we couldn’t quite name. If someone had told us back then that we would one day be sitting in silence, meditating on a podcast, we would have thought they were crazy. But somehow, meditation found us. Meditation, for me, is an anchor—one that reminds me, time and time again, that I am already whole. It is a returning rather than an attaining. A remembering rather than a striving. In moments of stillness, I feel the vast, infinite presence that holds all things, including me. This practice has softened me. It has given me a place to rest when the world feels overwhelming. It has taught me that I don’t need to search outside myself for love, peace, or clarity. All of it already exists, right here, in this breath, in this moment. Meditation is not about achieving anything. It is about meeting myself, exactly as I am, again and again. It is the friend that never leaves, the doorway that is always open. The only thing required is the willingness to step through.
Practical Aspects of Starting and Maintaining a Meditation Practice
If you’re waiting for the perfect moment to start meditating, you’ll be waiting forever. The trick is to just begin. Start small. One minute. One breath. One conscious pause in your day. In the beginning, I struggled. I’d sit down, determined to meditate, and within seconds my mind would be racing. I thought I was doing it wrong. But meditation isn’t about silencing the mind; it’s about shifting our relationship with it. It’s about noticing without reacting.
The biggest game-changer for me was setting a consistent time. Morning and evening. Even just one minute. The regularity of it built something deeper than discipline—it built trust. A few things that helped me:
- Choose a time and stick to it. Same time, every day. This creates habit and momentum.
- Don’t aim for perfection. Thoughts will come. That’s normal. Just return to your breath.
- Use an anchor. A mantra, a candle, the feeling of your feet on the ground—anything to bring you back.
- Trust the process. Some days will feel blissful, some days will feel impossible. Both are valid.
We also spoke about the biggest misconception people have about meditation—that it’s about “stopping thoughts.” That will never happen. Instead, what happens is that thoughts become less overwhelming. They go from feeling like crashing waves to gentle ripples, passing by without pulling us under.
Different Forms of Meditation and Their Impact
Meditation is not just about sitting in silence. It’s about finding the space between thoughts, the natural pauses in our breath, and allowing ourselves to settle into presence. One of the most powerful ways we’ve experienced meditation is through ˘. Simply noticing the inhale, the exhale, and the tiny pause in between—it’s in that pause where something profound happens. It’s like the entire world slows down, and for just a moment, there is nothing but pure stillness.
This pause exists everywhere. It’s there when we gaze at the ocean waves rolling in and out. It’s there in the quiet between notes in a song. It’s in the deep exhale after a long day. The more we become aware of these pauses, the more we can access presence, even in the busiest moments. For those who struggle with traditional meditation, finding stillness in nature can be a doorway. Standing outside, simply listening to the wind or the rustling leaves, can bring the same depth of awareness as sitting in a formal meditation. The key is noticing the spaces between—whether in breath, thought, or sound. In the end, meditation is about returning to the present moment. Whether through breath, stillness, or the natural world, it’s about coming home to ourselves.
Conclusion
If there’s one thing we want you to take away from this, it’s this: meditation is always waiting for you. It is the friend that never leaves. The doorway that never closes. We’ve all had moments of stillness—moments where we pause, even if just for a second. Maybe it’s the deep inhale before saying something vulnerable. The quiet between waves at the shore. The instant when we hear a song and feel it before thinking about it. These moments exist everywhere, all the time. Meditation is just about noticing them. There was a time when I thought meditation was something outside of me—something I had to work toward or achieve. But now I see that it’s not about striving at all. It’s about allowing. Allowing space. Allowing silence. Allowing myself to just be.
If you’ve ever felt like meditation is too hard or that you’re doing it wrong, I promise you—you’re not. Every time you sit, every time you take a conscious breath, you are already meditating. You are already home. You don’t have to be perfect. You don’t have to do it “right.” You just have to show up. Close your eyes. Take a breath. And step through.
