Discovering that love is our purpose

We start by discussing our relationship with our parents and the expression of love and emotions in their generation.

Discovering that love is our purpose

Discovering that Love is our Purpose

Podcast Summary

In the latest episode of “Discovering that love is our Purpose,” we explore the multifaceted nature of love through the lens of family relationships, daily practical expressions of love, and meditation techniques. This episode delves into how love can be nurtured and expressed in various aspects of our lives. Through personal anecdotes, reflective discussions, and practical tips, I aim to provide a comprehensive guide to understanding and cultivating love. This blog will summarize the key points discussed in the episode, offering a detailed look at the challenges in family relationships, practical ways to express love, and meditation techniques for fostering a loving mindset.

Challenges in Family Relationships and Expression of Love

Family relationships are often fraught with complexities, especially when it comes to expressing love and emotions. In the podcast, I share my personal experiences with my parents, highlighting the generational differences in emotional expression. My father, who suffered from Parkinson’s disease, became more emotionally expressive towards the end of his life, a stark contrast to the emotionally reserved man I knew growing up. This transformation illuminated the generational gap in expressing love, particularly for those born around World War II, who were more focused on survival than emotional communication.

Growing up in an environment where emotions were rarely discussed left me with unresolved feelings and anxiety. I turned to addiction as a way to cope with these internal struggles. However, through my journey of recovery, I learned the importance of understanding and forgiving our parents for their emotional shortcomings. This forgiveness is not about excusing their actions but about recognizing their humanity and the limitations imposed by their own upbringing. Self-awareness and emotional healing have been pivotal in breaking these cycles. By becoming more aware of my own emotional responses and working through unresolved emotions, I have gained clarity on how to cultivate healthier relationships. Creating a space where emotions can be freely expressed and processed is crucial—something that was largely absent in my childhood. This understanding sets the stage for exploring practical ways to express love in our daily lives, which is the focus of the next segment.

Practical Love in Daily Life

Transitioning from the challenges in family relationships, the podcast shifts its focus to practical ways of expressing love in daily life. Simple acts of love, like planning and preparing meals, can significantly enhance the sense of connection within a family. These acts, though seemingly small, are profound gestures of care and devotion.

One evening stands out in my memory. After a long day, I came home, expecting my husband to have dinner ready and our daughter taken to her horseback riding lesson. When this didn’t happen, I felt a wave of frustration and disappointment. This incident made me realize the importance of clear communication and planning. It led me to take a more organized approach to meal planning, recognizing it as an act of love that reduces stress for everyone. These everyday acts of love are especially crucial at the end of a long day when everyone is tired and more susceptible to irritation. Planning ahead and being mindful of each other’s needs can help navigate these challenging moments with more grace and less conflict.

We also explore the concept of unconditional love, particularly towards children and pets. We draw parallels between the unconditional love often felt for pets and the love we should strive to show our family members. This involves being present, listening, and providing comfort without judgment. A mindful approach to interactions, they suggest, can significantly enhance family relationships. It’s about taking those baby steps towards unconditional love, even in challenging situations. For instance, when my husband snaps at me, I try to understand what might be causing his frustration and respond with compassion rather than reacting negatively. This mindful approach helps in cultivating a loving and supportive environment at home.

Meditation and Techniques for Cultivating Love

The final segment of the podcast delves into meditation and techniques for cultivating love. The hosts share their experiences with meditation and its role in deepening their understanding and practice of love. Meditation, they explain, allows individuals to access a space beyond words and thoughts, where the true essence of love resides.

One host shares a transformative experience from a meditation retreat with Sally Kempton, where she had a profound realization that life is about love. This epiphany, which came after several days of deep meditation, illustrates how such practices can open one’s heart and mind to fundamental truths. Meditation helps clear the mind of chatter, facilitating a deeper connection with the nurturing energy of love.

For beginners, the hosts recommend starting with simple breathing exercises, such as focusing on the breath moving in and out of the nostrils. This practice, even for just a minute a day, can help individuals become more present and aware, fostering a deeper connection with their own emotions and the love within them.

The hosts also discuss the power of mantras, particularly those with a long history of use, such as in Hindu and Buddhist traditions. These mantras carry significant energy that can aid in meditation and emotional healing. They suggest starting with simple breathing exercises and gradually incorporating mantras or visualizations of unconditional love from a beloved pet or nature.

Conclusion

In conclusion, the “Discovering Love is our Purpose” podcast episode offers a comprehensive exploration of love, from understanding the challenges in family relationships to practical ways of expressing love in daily life and techniques for cultivating a loving mindset through meditation. The hosts provide valuable insights and practical tips, encouraging listeners to integrate these practices into their daily lives. By doing so, individuals can cultivate a loving and compassionate mindset, enhancing their relationships and overall well-being. The episode underscores the timeless truth that love is at the core of all our experiences, guiding us towards a more fulfilling and connected life.

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Abdi Assadi is unlike any other healer or spiritual teacher ever encountered. He is an expert in martial arts, and a dynamic healer practicing a diverse array of Chinese and Eastern Medicine, indigenous shamanic rituals, and meditation techniques. With a clinical practice in New York City for almost 4 decades, Abdi has accumulated a vast knowledge of real life experience working with several thousands of individuals, guiding them through the most difficult times, and teaching them how to understand themselves. One of the greatest things about him is he merges the human psyche with the spiritual psyche.

Steeped in deep wisdom and insight that is rare to find on this planet in these modern times, Abdi has an extraordinary ability in perceiving and comprehending human souls and their individual psyche. Guided by the divine, Abdi guides you to open up and see beyond your limited Self, into your own soul. His impeccable discernment enables him to unleash personal remarks that pierce through your veil, statements that you will never forget and in an instant alter your perception of yourself and your reality.

– Quotes from Shadows on the Path by Abdi Assadi:


All spiritual masters teach us that love is an activity before it is a condition – and that love is all-encompassing.
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It felt like I was coming off a race track and driving in a school zone. He knew, years before I did, that my speed was my way of suppressing my early childhood anxiety, and that only slowing down could heal it.

Why do you need to use all these words like God and spirituality? It is right here Abdi, all around you, all the time
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one does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.
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Ultimately it keeps grace out of our lives because we are using our will power to manipulate every event and person around us.
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His lesson, which I had begun to learn for myself, is that outside circumstances do not define our internal experience if we can surrender into them. Painful or undesirable situations will always arise; true suffering comes from our ego’s desire to resist life as it is.
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Note from Pernilla:
I met Abdi in the fall of 2014 and when I arrived in his office the first thing he said was, “It’s time that you stop carrying other people’s anxiety.” In the year that followed, my entrenched codependency patterns reared their ugly heads and I was confronted with a part of myself that I had never even known was there.

A few years later, Abdi said, “When are you going to start writing your book?”I looked at him in surprise. I was not a writer. My expertise was centered around creating crazy good Excel spreadsheets. However, I started writing and collecting notes about life issues and life experiences … and here we are a few years later.

Sally Kempton is a preeminent meditation teacher of our time.

She is an expert scholar in Hinduism and all Hindu texts especially in Kashmir Shaivisim. Formerly Swami Durgananda, she left monastic life in the 1980’s to teach publicly. She has written several books and is one of the most known and loved spiritual teachers in our time.

Note from Pernilla:

I met Sally at one of her workshops at City Yoga in LA in 2003. She had the most gentle and loving disposition, and I just wanted to always be around her. I was fortunate to have been part of her two year-long “Transformative journey” courses in 2006 and 2007 and many retreats ever since. She is the true representation of unconditional love and transmits intense shakti from her Guru Swami Muktananda.

Sally is the primary building block and foundation in my spiritual journey. Without her, I would have never found and stuck with meditation – the most transformative experience of my life. Without her, I would have been lost without a clue where to go next. Her wealth of knowledge of yogic philosophy and incredible understanding of the human condition is what makes her a force to be reckoned with.  She understands your depth and makes you feel seen, heard, validated, and deeply loved.